Sunday, March 25, 2012

My Friend Arthur

I hadn't seen Arthur, a dear friend, for a few years and while trying to find a current number for him came across a story from 2008 telling about his death in an apartment fire. We had gone to treatment together, attended lots of AA meetings, listened to music until all hours of the night, and watched each other grow. I will miss him dearly and wish I had more time with him. He was a kind and loving soul, but I am happy to see he found fullness in life with loving friends and father to a son.

He had a hard, violent, crazy life growing up but somehow had remained one of the most accepting, gentle, beautiful people I've ever known. He used to talk about what we'd do together when we were both old men, still hanging out in coffee shops together. He had no doubts we'd be connected for the rest of our lives. He wrote poetry, talked about this close friends with an unshakable fierceness, shared his heart easily.


He had a degenerative eye disorder and was slowly going blind. In the article it said he was making peace with the transition to being blind. In 2008, right after his death it turns out, I started seeing hawks everywhere, especially near my work. They always seemed to mean something, but I could never figure out what but I think the hawks are about him. When I read of his death and thought of him, I immediately thought of a hawk- he had that confident posture and somehow it seems like his failing vision would be restored tenfold in death. Hawks are sometimes seen as messengers, I feel like they were there to tell me about my friend and have waited patiently for me to be ready to listen for the last 4 years. It was comforting.

I can't imagine dying the way he did. He was in his bed when the fire started but they found him by the apartment office, so he had been trying to make his way out but with limited sight I just imagine the panic and torture of it. I hope he found some peace with death in those last moments, I hope more than anything he didn't feel alone there, that he remembered all the beauty in his life and found grace somehow.

The last time I saw him, I took him and his girlfriend out for lunch at Hells Kitchen. They talked for an hour and a half about everything they had going on. Clearly they were happy together and saw something special in each other. He was happy and with someone who loved him, I'm glad that is the way I can remember him. He's the third close friend I've had die in the last few years, Jake, Chris, and now Arthur. Their lives all left an indelible mark on me, they are amazing to me, I miss them so much.



The article from the Shakopee Valley News, Monday, March 17, 2008

Man who died from apartment fire was legally blind, had infant son


A 26-year-old man who was rescued from his burning apartment in Shakopee early Monday morning has died.

Unconscious when firefighters carried him from the building, Arthur Hussey was airlifted to Hennepin County Medical Center in Minneapolis, where he was later taken off life support and died at 6:24 a.m. Tuesday.

Hussey’s fiancée, Jessica Sobotta, was able to make it out of the four-unit complex, as did a pair of upper-level tenants. She was treated and released from St. Francis Regional Medical Center in Shakopee, along with a mother and daughter who lived in the other downstairs apartment. They had to be rescued through a window because the common stairwell was too hot and filled with smoke and gas fumes. A resident who lived in the fourth unit wasn’t home at the time.

The cause of the fire remains under investigation by the state fire marshal.

Emergency responders were called to the building, which is at 2077 12th Ave. W., about 2:15 a.m. Monday, apparently by a man who lived on the second floor.

Sobotta, who appears to have been sleeping in the living room, separately from Hussey, vaguely remembers somebody yelling there was a fire and to get out. Once she made it outside, she realized Hussey wasn’t with her. Police restrained her from rushing back in after him, Sobotta’s mother Dawn said she was told by police.

It’s unclear who woke Sobotta.
As firefighters arrived, police were pulling a girl out of the other lower-level unit.

"We ended up going in and getting the mother out of that apartment," Fire Chief Ed Schwaesdall said.

Investigators told Dawn Sobotta that the upstairs tenant was awake at the time of the fire and he heard something slam, causing him to look into the entryway and see smoke billowing from her daughter's apartment. The man called 911 about 2:15 a.m.

Hussey had been sleeping in the bedroom, but firefighters found him at the entrance of an office in the apartment, Dawn Sobotta said she was also told.

Home video from a neighbor shows flames shooting out the windows of the couple’s lower level apartment as Shakopee firefighters and police scurried about the scene.

Rescue efforts were too late to save Hussey, who died from smoke inhalation and burns, according to the Hennepin County Medical Examiner’s Office.

Hussey, who had a 10-month-old son, Arthur Jr., from a previous relationship, lived in Minneapolis with his friend Stephen Streeter before moving in with Sobotta a few months ago. The couple would often spend the weekends in Minneapolis.

Hussey grew up in Indiana and moved to the Twin Cities about 10 years ago, Streeter said. He worked for a chrome-plating company in northeast Minneapolis until his failing sight forced him to quit two years ago.

He inherited a genetic eye condition and his sight started deteriorating when he was about 22, Streeter said.

Despite being legally blind, Hussey was always there for anybody who needed him, said Streeter, who was a fatherly figure to Hussey.

"He had a big heart," Streeter said. "He was a pretty giving person."

Sobotta, who has struggled to eat and sleep since the night of the fire, considered Hussey her soul-mate.

She said he was free-spirited person, probably the most open-minded man she’s ever known, and very loyal to those he loved.

"He really loved life even though we all have our problems," she said. "I just really miss him very much."

Streeter said Hussey was a fan of rap music, and enjoyed the Minnesota outdoors, fishing and doing stunts on his trick bike.

"He was making the transition from being a sighted to legally blind person pretty good," Streeter said.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Thai Yoga Bodywork and Reiki

I had a great time this last Spring and Summer taking Reiki and Thai Yoga Bodywork training with my teacher Tanya at Devanadi Yoga. Reiki is a system of energy work that originated in Japan and uses different hand positions to help with stress reduction and relaxation to promote well being. Thai Yoga Bodywork is technically also a form of energy work, but it is much more physical and focuses on removing blocks in the body's energy lines through a combination of massage, pressure points, and passive yoga poses (it's like yoga without all the sweat). Both are very relaxing and help bring a feeling of well being and clarity.

Look how happy everyone in my Thai Yoga class looked after 5 days of it!


To continue improving my skills in both and move on to future classes I need to practice with people. My house with 3 dogs and 2 cats isn't idea for it and I thought I'd try to recruit people by offering free sessions for anyone interested in their home. Typically Reiki takes around 1 hour. Thai Yoga Bodywork usually takes around 90 minutes but we can do 60 or 120 minutes as well. One the first session we go through some orientation and answer questions so it might take a little longer.

If you're interested you can email me at ctmurphy@gmail.com. And if you don't want to meet in your home, there are some other options if you are willing to split the cost of a room in a studio for the time (it's a really nice room setup just for Thai Yoga and Reiki, you might prefer it to your own home anyway).

Monday, September 5, 2011

Wim Wenders expected to direct Bayreuth 'Ring' cycle in 2013

L.A. Time Article

Win Wenders

No only did he direct some of my favorite movies, including Wings of Desire, but having just finished Pina, a dance film, in 3D no less, he is planning to direct Wagner's Der Ring Des Niebelungen (not for film, just the opera at the Bayreuth Festival in Germany). And just look at that hair!

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Things My Father Did

Going through some photos of my Dad today, Fathers' Day, I came upon the 3x5 cards I had used to write down my thoughts for his memorial service. Throughout my Dad's adult life he kept a stack of 3x5 cards in his front pocket to help him organize everything in his life from work projects, to movies he wanted to see, to repairs at home. These cards went with him everywhere, I can't find a photo without them peeking out of his front pocket.

When he died in 2001 it struck me that his cards were things left unfinished, things he had wanted, needed, or hoped to do. I decided to write him a list of things he had done, things he did for me:

1. Told me why the sky is blue
2. Showed me the top of Aspen Mountain
3. Taught me why baseball is so essentially American
4. Got me my first job and made sure I would succeed
5. Helped me grow to understand religion, faith, spirituality were not found only in a church
6. Taught me a deeper meaning of the word Dad than I could have known myself

7. Gave me my first look through a telescope at the stars
8. Was the first “Horsey” I ever rode
9. Took me to my first opera and mad sure I stayed awake
10. Taught me what war really was
11. Played me Pete Seeger and sang me A-Be-Yo-Yo with all the voices
12. Showed me how hard it was to lead a noble, honest, and passionate life, but why it was so important

-Taught me chess, swimming, skating, canoeing, soldering, soccer
-Guest-lectured at every physics class I ever took, sometimes without an invitation
-Took me to Broadway Danny Rose and showed me why Woody Allen was so funny
-Gave me a sister, 2 brothers, and a wonderful mother
-Showed me that even Matchbox cars obeyed the laws of physics





My Dad the Über/Anti-Geek

My dad worked at Fermilab, you know, the lab in Illinois where the Tevatron lives and people in places named CDF and  search for things like the Higgs boson. He was a high-energy particle physicist and an expert in installing the 10-ton super-conducting beam magnets used in particle accelerators- CERN even brought him over to Geneva to consult on their installs. He was however decidedly old school, preferred working in Fortran rather than use the mouse and graphical interface on the Mac they gave him. He continued to used a slide rule into the 80's, even I was using a scientific calculator by then. I still have one of his classic pocket slide rules in my desk.

What cements his status as über/anti-geek for me is that while he seemingly could grasp the intricacies of esoteric physics and math, the practical world was sometimes a blur for him. He had me and my sister soldering electronics together at Fermilab by the time we were 10, but he would refer to Star Wars, the greatest movie of all time, as "that movie Space Battles." He discovered how to use crystals to split particle beams more efficiently than millions of dollars of magnets, but only after watching the bulk of Austin Powers did he realize Mike Meyers was playing half the roles, which sent him reeling in manic laughter. He lived so deeply in physics, his "geek", that he was oblivious to most of the culture a more modern geek would typically thrive on. Driving with him anywhere while he was absorbed in a problem was like riding sidekick with a Mentat while they piloted their spaceship, lots of mumbling and hyper-focused, he wouldn't even respond to conversation at times. (He would totally not get that reference).

We once bought him an electronic pocket planner as a gift to replace all the 3x5 notecards that he used to organize his life and work, cards he carried with him everywhere in his front pocket (yes, just behind his pocket protector). After he passed away, I found it sitting proudly on his shelf unused, 20 some years later.

My Dad's Study 2001


Thursday, June 2, 2011



I went to this in 2007, loved it- Colorado and all that sexy audio equipment to see and hear. But I haven't been back since. I'm making plans....

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Echo by Alex Murphy


Echo

Big and round
Sleep and sound
She has found
The big mound
Of food enduring
With two rings
Then she stole
And left a hole
What a brat
Big Fat Cat


                                  - Alex Murphy, May 2002